I struggle with her ill feelings towards me . Thats the worst . Worse than the affair .
But these are her ill feelings, not yours. Why are you taking possession of her ill feelings? Choose to have sympathetic feelings towards her, feelings of love. Treat her with love, even when she is spewing. I know it's hard to do at first, but with practice it'll get easier.
Remember her feelings are not yours. Choose your own feelings and thoughts. You are totally free to do that, and by choosing positive feelings and thought you'll be amazed at how you can improve your day.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014