I agree with what the other posters said. My MIL and I are very close and I have had the opportunity to tell her how I feel about my situation with her son, though I don't believe it's helped much. She's said she wants to express her feelings about the separation but she wants to wait until "after the holidays" which I understand, but my H's family has a tendency to sweep problems under the rug big time and would rather ignore issues than face them head on, whereas my family is the total opposite. And then, as I've mentioned before in my own thread, there's the issue of Christmas Eve dinner, and H has said he wants to bring the children without me, so this will be the first Christmas Eve dinner in almost 10 years I haven't attended and it makes me sad to think of everyone watching my kids open their gifts and interacting with them without me. There's a small part of me who thinks such an event could help wake H up to the reality of this whole thing. This will be the first family function he's attended without me since we started seriously dating and I think it will be awkward to be there with the kids and not me... but that's a big assumption. Sorry to ramble on your thread but I've followed your posts for a while and can relate to so much of what you've written—in fact my H just called as I was typing this to talk about a schedule change for tomorrow and I was very casual and we were both just like "Ok, sounds good, talk to you later, bye!" and to me it feels like this is all so easy for him and I'm going along with the program, when in reality the idea of D and separate holidays, vacations, lives, etc. still makes me queasy. My H's father also divorced his mom when he was very small, but he doesn't think it's the same.
Reading your threads has helped me a lot. You are doing so well. With or without your H I can tell you've got a fabulous life ahead of you. Hang in there.
Last edited by Lorelai; 12/18/1403:12 AM.
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
