Should I let her know I am reading the book?

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I am in AA, the self actualizing brought me to where I am now, alcohol will never be a problem for me again, and I can finally say that as though a truck has been lifted off my shoulders, just wish it hadn't taken me so long to get where I am. I wasn't a chronic alcoholic, or sick, more like a guy that got stuck in my 20's and refused to grow up despite her efforts to get me to do so. We have a lot of other issues as well,

Hmmmm

An alcoholic is an alcoholic. There is no such thing as a non chronic alcoholic.
Bert, this is a disease which will be for the rest of your life, and with due respect step 1 says I admit that I am powerless over the disease that is in my life. Acceptance.
This means it is a problem. You may manage it but it's an issue. The important Step is step 3. Allowing your higher power to manage the disease for you.

I am calling you on this because my H is a compulsive too. Your W knows too well what the years of alcohol abuse have done. No therapist has caused her to suddenly know this. If you can encourage her to go to Al anon that will help as she will be part of a group which does the 12 step process too.

I do applaud you for the AA and for staying dry, as it is not an easy road you travel. When you give your therapy then you can air these matters in the room, and no doubt full feedback will follow.

Truly when you work the steps you will be recovering, which is for all of your life. W will know if you are as your inner self will change. It is not your past nonsense which weighs but the future nonsense, and W will begin to know yesterday, today and tomorrow and to live one day at a time, if she has the courage to go to Al anon.

I challenge you, have you really allowed the higher power to take precedence in your life?
Serenity
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