He!!, why can't I catch a single break! Talked to my lawyer's office. They absolutely will not wait to have this meeting! They won't wait until my testing is done or after the holidays. I'm starting to feel like my lawyer works for my W! Now I have to give them dates when I will be able to have this "meeting". I know exactly what is going to happen. They are going to tell me to take whatever it is that her lawyer offers up and if I don't, tell me that they won't go to trial. There is no money in it for them because I paid a flat fee. I hate my W more now then I ever have in my entire life! I'm thinking of calling her and asking her why she can't wait until until my testing is done and I start my new job. I doubt it will get me anywhere but I want to hear her say it. I want to hear her tell me that she just doesn't care. The very last thing I needed from her was this. I can think of a few reasons why. The biggest being that her father is paying for her lawyer and is probably wanting to not have to pay anymore. Next, my W is convinced that having just me on her health ins. is costing her $123 a WEEK! that's almost $600 a month. The most I have ever been quoted for just myself is under $300 a MONTH. She isn't able to think rationally. She gets an idea in her head and will not even listen to what the truth is. She says she is spending so much money on clothes and I didn't buy any for D15. Well, I have bought her clothes that she leaves here and shoes, not as much but let me tell you, she isn't wanting for something to wear. Of course there's always the fact that she thinks this will be the magic cure for all her misery, I'm sure that she is in a hurry for that all to stop and that will be the moment the D is final!
I can't take it anymore. Every part of my life is suffering because of her. From the start she and I would talk about what we were going to do. Hard conversations that took a long time and were painful. A week later she would tell me she had "changed her mind" and that she was going to do the opposite of what we agreed to. When I asked how it was that she just changed her mind she said and I quote "I just did. I can't help that I changed my mind". Can't help that she changed her mind? Really? How can someone actually say something like this and not know how unbelievable that statement is? Is she really THAT far gone? The only answer to that is ...yes, she has to be.
I'm thinking about what I'm going to do. I think I will give her what I'm willing to accept and if that isn't going to work for her, than I will say that we need to go to court. Of course, that will mean I will need a new lawyer so that will take some time. When I do get a new lawyer he will need to get up to speed on my case so that will mean more delays. I will tell him that I'm in no hurry and to delay in every way possible. Her wish for a fast end will be gone. Of course I'm not going to be unreasonable. At this point I conceded many things including where D15 will go to school, plus allowing her to take most of the antiques from the home, etc. all because she had been telling me she had no desire to have the house and I could keep it. I even allowed her to refinance one of our cars into just her name (against my lawyer) because I thought she was going to allow me the house. I brought in $47,000 in assets that were cashed in and used for joint expenses to the M. She brought in over $32,000 in debt and zero assets. That's just under $80,000 difference that I have a right to recoup. Even if we only use half of the assets, that's still over $50K. I think it is only fair that she get less of the proceeds of the sale of the house. The house will get around $60,000 if sold as is right now. That means I get $50,000, she gets $10,000. If it sells for $70K, she gets $20K, I get $50K, etc. I really think that's MORE than fair. I think I should get half the assets and ALL the debts. But I really think this is fair. In fact I won't be at all happy about it as she is still getting way more than she deserves.
I would appreciate any thoughts you all have on this. Am I asking too much? Too little? Am I thinking this all the wrong way (I worry because I know I'm really angry and unhappy and may not be seeing things right). Please, let me know your thoughts everyone.
