And then my mind wanders to my MIL who emailed me to ask for bday gift ideas for my D. And I want to say to her that I don't think I can have a relationship with her that is friendly and normal like that, because unless you think I'm someone who deserved to be walked out on by your son, how do you not get involved? And if you think I deserved to be walked out on, why are you emailing me in this normal friendly way. Ask your f'ing son--you know, the one who walked out on his wife-- for gift ideas.
Claire, don't do this. You know your MIL can't desert your H. But clearly she likes you too. Don't make her choose sides, because you will always lose that. This isn't easy for her either. I know my MIL still roots for me, she hopes that we will R, she has often told me over the years that I have been very good to/for W. She thinks my W is nuts to go, and she thinks I should have full custody of kids (!). And yet she sends Bcard to W saying she loves her and is proud of her. What else can she do? She is very troubled by all of this. I like my MIL and I will treasure that R regardless of what happens with W.
