I have my own post under newcomers, but I never asked this question and it seems relevant to me. What do you do when your walk-away spouse says they've "tried everything" over years to get through to you, but you know they only tried the same thing over and over again? For me, trying everything means research. It means hours of Google searches looking for similar problems and their solutions, comparing what I do now to what I did then, and new ways to approach things. If you know for a fact your spouse never tried this, is there a way to approach this with him/her, at any point? Or would this just be perceived as needy or unreasonable? Honest answers, please!
