Had an out of the blue call from an old friend (well, friend with benefits) from high school who lives in Atlanta, ironically, just down the road from OM. (I did tell her that if she ever got the urge to slash tires or tamper with brake lines, I knew just the place LOL). I spent an hour unloading about my sitch. Turns out she had a similar issue with her husband's parents. At least mine are nice to my W's face; hers are just plain nasty. They have managed to survive, but they required quite a bit of counseling. I hadn't talked to her in years; it's amazing how many old friends have popped out of nowhere in the last three months.
It's like "gaydar." Guys suddenly appearing to MAYBE be single again, send out some pheromone or something, lol. When I was going thru it with my wife, I was STUNNED at the interest I drew, having not been "out there" for 22 years at that point. I even had two very attractive female co-workers come by my office one way, just say "hi" and then stand there in the doorway, staring in at me. "What did you need?" I asked them. "Oh nothing . . . we'd just heard how great (my first and last name) looked, so we wanted to come by and see for ourselves."
You could have picked my jaw up off the floor.
THEN, about 30 seconds after the two of them leave, the one that I knew better comes BACK into my office, lowers her voice, and says "I heard about you going thru some stuff with your wife, and that you're trying to work it out. So I won't pry. But if you suddenly find yourself single again, I would LOVE to know about it." Smiles at me, and leaves.
That all being said, ENJOY THE FEELING, but I absolutely echo what Sandi just wisely said: careful.
