Ah, you're in that phase. Trust me. It mellows out.
If you are like me, then you stayed in the R for 10 years not because you weren't being smart, but rather because you saw something good in it. Don't let these current circumstances blind you to that. There were - obviously - good times in your R and that means it was not 10 years wasted. It's all just part of your life story. What this teaches me is the I shouldn't take for granted that the people currently in my life will always be there. Must make the most of my interactions with them while I can...
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014