There is level of shame there. She tells herself its not an affair - it is
She has told everyone it was all me but not mentioned OM
She made me quit my old job because she was so embarrassed by what people at work thought.
She has always had anxiety about what people think of her
He obviously has doubts otherwise he wouldn't have had his initial trepidation. So now has the best chance.
And there is zero chance of reconciliation while the A is ongoing
W is already using her maiden name. (She never changed half her accounts anyway) moving out, and wanting divorce. I suppose I don't see how it makes it worse even if it spectacularly backfires
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
