Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[Mozza]

I hope a vet will weigh in.

I've no firm opinion on the exposure, but I admit that it looks a half-baked plan. jim0987, you need to envision exactly how it would go, either way. What if the OM just brush you off or laughs at you? More humiliation. What if he attempts to exact revenge? What other scenarios are there? How exactly would your W fall back in love with you because you've done this? It seems like those who have exposed an A, like Starsky, were facing a WAW with a certain sense of shame. Even sandi2 backed off when her daughter told her she knew everything. Would your W suddenly realize what she's doing? Would she come back to you because OM backs off after your communication?

Perhaps it's because I've no experience and don't have an opportunity to expose since my W did it in the open (left me, got with him, not sure in what order though...) and because I feel that my W has to experience the A to value our M. In your case, perhaps she doesn't need the A to come back.

Also, I'm afraid that you do this out of pessimism, because you imagine the current moment to last forever. A week ago, Rzrback saw his sitch turn around in 24 hours.