H's MLC#6- Now its about ME!

[woundedfool]

THERE SHE BLOWS

So H went to his hometown yesterday afternoon, did not call to say he arrived or anything.

I leave a vm today telling him I'm upset that he did not think he needed to at least call and say he had arrived.

He calls, to talk to me about pizza had not heard vm, so I tell him what I said.

he tells me that I go everywhere and dont tell him and dont call him,,I said I have never gone out of town and not called him when I arrived. He told me that when s14 and I went on a cruise in 2012 I did not call him for 2 days,,,NOT ture but his reality...I told him that was not true.

I then let him know that my silence does not mean I'm ok with our current situation,,he said again that I go where ever I want and he does not know where I am,,,

I told him this is not just about him going out of town and not calling,,this is about everything, this is NOT working for me, I told him this is about this not being the type of R I want to be in,,,

H told me if that is how I feel,,and then keep saying he needed to get ready for work. I ask if we could talk when he gets home tonight he said he will not want to talk after working,,,

He told me his silence does not mean he is ok with things either,,

I told him he choose this situation we are in, and that this is too much for me ,,,

He keep saying he had to go to work,,,I told him to have a nice day and hung up.

I'm DONE, I'm belive I'm really DONE, I hope I'm done!!!

I believe I want to ask him to leave the house ASAP.

I don't want to do this anymore.

I told him I'm tired of the way things are with us. He had nothing to say..

I feel like Im exploding inside! I don't want this anymore!!!

I'm scared how this will affect our s14. I know H will tell everyone I put him out (if that is what I tell him) he will blame all this on me.

WOW...so much for taking quiet time and waiting on GOD!

hmmm.... I think you need to take a step back. Re-examine how you are approaching this. You have seemed to move away from some many of the DB'ing tenants:

Your attached
Your "checking up"
You've given ultimatums
Your not acting "as if"
You have R talks

If he is gone for a few days, I think it is an excellent time to stop what you are doing, and re-evaluate how your are approaching things.

Take a few days to re-read DB/DR, get your nails done, go to lunch with a friend. Essentially re-charge.

I am even guilty of this, when I suggested the MC gift certificate.

The holidays are tough, as you need to keep that happy face and PMA going.

You got this! You can do it!