The chief pro is that she is in A fog and that as long as she is she isn't looking at the damage that is done everyday by her choices (and the massive long term damage associated with her moving)
Everything I've seen tells me she is convinced that she will be happy elsewhere. That she wants to find real love and that passion is with OM1. I know she us jealous of her PF even though her AP has been stringing her along for over a year.
Anyway bust the A and W might have to face the consequences if what she's done.
Big con is that she sees it as more of me trying to control her and destroy her happiness.
I did at my lowest point, just before I found here, tell her that because I loved her I would let her go.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress