Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[edz]

I can say mate, in that you are not alone but I'd put back to you what you said to me, concentrate on what you can affect and what you can do for you and the kids. You cannot change her, if it were possible all of us here would be doing it in our sitches, it 5ucks, it truly does but its where we are.

Concentrate on you and on your PMA, keep the great 180s and GAL going but ensure you also work out whats going to make Jim happy, we know that in each of our cases we can easily say what number one on that list is but focus on 2 onwards..for now.

Im not that much further on from you mate, July in my case, but I know that the feelings you describe are how I felt in August through to October this year. Being in the same house cant be helping detatching either.

In my case I still slip and find myself going into obsessing on what W is doing, planning, scheming with MIL to hurt me but for all I know she's making beans on toast and watching Criminal Minds.

You will get to a point where its just a small bit easier mate, im not sure that can happen simply while you're both in the same place I'd defer to Vanilla on that one as I wasnt in that situation as W up and left after I found the postal redirect, she never came back to stay, but I did end up living there surrounded by the past for 4 months before moving, thats made it easier and I suppose why Im nervous of plots to financially obliterate me and having to give it up.

Anywhere you can get out to on a feel better GAL around people who will remind you you're not that creepy guy? If so go, do it

Edz