Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[edz]

Hi Jim

its an awooga moment as Im not in the whole A sitch (well not yet, mil is busy encouraging W to vivisect me and harvest the goodies within instead). I'd think though that you should decide on your actions but be careful. If you think speaking to the OM would work then thats soemthing thats really down to you but for goodness sakes dont emperil yourself. Im not for one minute saying you'd do anything remotely silly and I know the pain and hurt and that in your case you probably feel like its salt in the wound that w is happy with om at christmas and worse the kids will be away.

But the kids *will* be back, my fear is if something does escalate - even if OM goes - if W gets wind of what happens you could end up with less time with them or worse. If she feels youve done something to end her happiness, well you can see my concern there. I of course dont know if thats the kind of fight for me gesture she's looking for, I dont understand what MY W is trying to do or what would bring her back, half the time I dont think they know but be sure you take the right actions to make sure YOU are ok and I absolutely know you already do this every second for the kids.

You're a caring sensible guy mate, its a 5h1tty situation but be careful of yourself and what you have to lose especially in this season where those of us who have been hurt so much so recently feel it so deeply.

We're here for you mate, be careful.

Edz