I'm starting to think that Jim has H figured out pretty well.
We can test that through GGGs experiments, actually write a playbook
I think its more I'm figuring myself out and from the way H is described I find myself reading a lot across. Now if only I could apply it usefully......
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
Oh WOW! I came on over here after reading your posts on Card's thread, GGG. So much about what you have written lately speaks to me. I too am questioning how to balance detachment with retaining feelings of love. Already forgiven H. Bingo! And the things you say about porn? Much of that feels true as well, though it was not acknowledged as an issue before BD. I still don't really have a handle on what I am dealing with but it does seem to be a personal crisis on behalf of H.
Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for articulating some of the things that have been floating around my head lately. And special thanks for speaking so openly about your experiences with porn. I think that resonates with a lot of people on here.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014