Calibri - thanks for cheering up. You are very sweet.
NAJ1964 - It's something very individual and every sitch is different, even if they seem similar.
In my case, I can't even prove my WAH is having an A. He told me he had feelings for someone else, then he told me he tried to go through with it and couldn't bring himself to cheat on me.
That I think he is lying and has someone? I don't know. That I think he is saying the truth? I also don't know.
I also have three children with this man and I want some kind of friendly R with him other then always fighting in front of the kids.
Besides, I really think that being his friend gets me closer to him every time. With time I will be able to show him some of the changes I make along the way.
I do not believe in hate, I can feel angry, upset but I do not hate anyone, even the people that hurt me badly in life, I do not hate them.
Although it suits my sitch, I know there are situations were the spouse is very disrespectful and unfair, so I guess it is easy not be friends.
