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had a decent day today. my BIL (well XBIL) is in town for a couple of weeks. he wanted to go to dinner with me and the kids tonight. we had a great time. funny thing happened at dinner. i told the kids to say the blessing and they went into full blown prayers. D said Jesus let mommy and daddy get back together and stay together forever. S said Lord please heal mama and heal our family. i just said thank you for my family and for BIL's safe travel and take care of XW at her important work tonight.

afterwards, looked at him with a wry smile and said sorry, i get that stuff all the time. we got him a couple of cold weather gear items as we are going to the mountains for Christmas eve (inc. XW) and he is not much of a packer. kind of stuff i always did and he was appreciative. BIL is super close to her and i know he saw the different interactions that i now have with the kiddos.

went back to my apartment after dinner to hang out for a bit. we talked and laughed about old times (funny Disney trip stories-he went with us about 4 times) and other recollections. i asked about his new GF and their mom and grandad. it hit me that i have been in his life since he was seven. talked about law school and it was good to practice/continue to really listen to others. i know he saw a difference. what was cool was that i didn't even think about the different dynamic until we dropped him off. on a side note, when we went to pick him up, i texted him to come out(didn't want to see her) but she came out anyways. she spoke to D and gave me a hug. she also called the kids from work tonight but i had S hang up when he was done. found out that she is taking BIL to a play that i had mentioned that i wanted to take the kids to but don't have time to. it was good catching up with him. FWIW, i don't think he was to keen on her plan from the beginning. i told him that i knew he knew of her plan but i couldn't be mad at him for not giving me a head's up. i think that really shocked him as i used to be a major grudge holder.