I am definately making changes for me, I just think she is shooting from the hip, getting advice from people she shouldn't and has no clue what this is going to do to our family. She is confused and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can see the wheels turning when we talk, I say little things like "you know, we have a really beautiful Christmas tree." And leave the conversation at that. I am doing my best to distance myself too and not be as available which is tough. I thought the beginning of the book might shed some light on the ramifications of these actions but I am not sure.
Oh and BTW the counselor today told me that she was the head of the annulment comittee in her parish. How is that not a conflict??
