She's going to think what she's going to think. Let the book stay there, maybe she'll pick it up and see for herself it's not about picking up women.
Anyhow, the long post above ^^^. I was just going to jot a few things down, first of which was to echo what Wonka said.
Now is probably not the time for any real discussions. You'll need time to really think things through and try on the words to see how they fit you.
The biggest thing is--for the future--she needs to feel SAFE with you. That means she can trust you not to hurt her. Once we get burned, it's hard to trust.
So expect to bend over backwards demonstrating how she can trust you. That you have integrity and are honest as the day is long.
Even now, separated from my H, I have told him I expect no less from him. That I will continue to be upfront and honest about my actions and intentions, and I expect him to be a man of his word and to treat me with kindness and respect.
He's had his moments, but I have always pushed back when he has crossed the line. And just in the last few days, I see he is being kinder and more considerate of me.
Whether or not we get back together, this speaks volumes to the kind of man he is trying to be. It's a process, and it means a lot to me to see him making improvements.
