You say that your sister's boyfriend was doing things with the phone lines and that you had your cell phone turned off. And that you never heard anything from Pam.
Then you say that the phone rang once, from Pam.
And now you are asking if we think she's out to hurt you or just stressed?
Have you spoken to Pam or are you making ASSumptions??
So, let me guess...you know she's facing or may have faced the decision to have to put a loved pet to sleep. You have not made yourself available to her throught this tough time. And now you are asking if the fact that she called and let the phone ring once is her seeking revenge?
Sorry I can't be more helpful...I'm just not sure what you are asking our opinion on.
It just felt like Pam was leading me to believe she'd had the dog put down Saturday, after she'd sounded the opposite Friday evening. She never indicated she hadn't had him put down until this morning.
Then, for no apparent reason, she called in the middle of the night but only let it ring once.
In that case, may I suggest that she may have been trying to get a hold of you all weekend, but wasn't able to, due to your cell phone being off or your sister's boyfriend messing with the phone line?
Why don't we give her the benefit of the doubt?
In the interest of improving communication, how about you post a question to the joint thread?
I don't think it'd be fair of us to decide whether Pam is stressed or revenge seeking without all the facts!
I'm guessing I was a bad boy, and was making assumptions. It sounded like P was angry, and intentionally leading me to believe she'd put the dog down.
My thoughts were probably also influenced by an e-mail she'd sent about the settlement. It sounds like she wants me to give up all of my equity in the house (downpayment + 1/2 appreciation) so she can purchase it at the value of the remaining mortgage. My entire life's savings is now gone and we have a lot of debt. I'm having trouble with the thought that she came into the marriage with nothing but a little debt while I had a lot of savings, but now she apparently wants all the equity in the house and I'm in debt.
I know you don't browse the bb much anymore, but thought if you did your screenname might catch your attention and since you had said I could read your thread, which I didn't. Just didn't feel right.
But figured this was the most likely place for you to see the post.
Sending wishes to you, mom and dad for a Happy Thanksgiving and hope mom and dad have a wonderful anniversary!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
