I fostered a couple of sexually abused children. I think it's fair to say that along with that acknowledgement of abuse and acceptance that as a child there is absolutely nothing that the child is responsible for. This is a lifelong burden and I would like nothing better than to chop of the relevant bits of the abuser and......
T, it is generally a rule of thumb that each relationship that an abused child enters as an adult require 2 years of therapy. Abuse patterns reoccur in numerous forms. Please accept that this recovery is a life long journey and that you have achieved a great deal so far. Maturity is not easy, be kind to yourself and a little sympathy for H who isn't a therapist and can't replace one. H may need help too with this.
You are strong T mom because and in spite of this. Your heart does not need to bleed as it can mend. This destruction need only interrupt your life and not define it.
I am glad you have an IC that can help you and to whom you can relate.
Heal this time Vanilla
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
