I thought everything was okay...(Part 2)

[MCS]

Well, its good that I've read through others sitch's and sandi2 posts. My WAS is progressing through the stages to a tee. I can tell she's at the point that the fantasy of what she is doing is starting to break down and the ability to focus the cause of the anger at the LBS is starting to diminish. I think she's starting to come out of the fog maybe and the anger about the sitch in general is taking hold.

So at counseling (mediation,) she was livid today about agreement about our stuff that SIL made. I said that this was her decision to send SIL. I offered multiple times to sit with W, W and someone else together or someone in place of W. She said yeah, but SIL didn't choose what W wanted her to. I tried to validate, but said this was the approach she wanted. We could start again, if she really wanted to.

At one point, she got really angry and snapped "This isn't fair" I replied "Nothing about this situation is fair." She then changed from angry to more reserved and said "Your right, there's not much fair going through this"

I said that we can try to improve our communication in order to work these things better. She said she wasn't ready to communicate with me directly. I said that's fine, but we also don't need to finalize this stuff (property/money) separation now. I said we can slow down, we're not getting D tomorrow. Our S is working out from a daily activity perspective right now and we can wait to work some of these things out prior to D. I then said "You made it clear that you wanted us to be S and I'm listening to you. I'm moving on, you made a decision and I'm trying to honor it."

Anyway, it was another weird session that she came in really angry and then changed her mood when she saw that I was still calm and collected. It really seems like she's struggling with this. I just need to make sure that I don't get too business and the path home would be too hard for her.
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Vanilla,

As far as a 'credit,' she had sent me an email saying that since I chose the more expensive stuff in the house, that she wanted to not split our modest stock account equally.