Thank you, Vanilla! I do, and have for a couple of years now, see an IC. I had previously worked through a lot of the old [censored], but I didn't realize that new (old) [censored] came up while I was married. As a single person, I had it all figured out. In my marriage, there are so many millions of wierdnesses that come up all the time, unbeknownst to me. He thought I looked at him as if he were the abuser and turned himself off to me. Eventually, part of him really resented me and that part was very apparent. I thought he just didn't want to have sex with me, and now that is true. We never really communicated about all of it and had a seriously sex-starved marriage. But we really love our son, and do love each other. I am positive a sex therapist could help, but he is done.
