Little but FIERCE (Little's Thread #4)

[jim0987]

Hi little,

I think you are starting to look at it with the right kind of mindset. Your BF has treated you really badly and has done so before to other people. I suspect his fantasy will come up short quite quickly particularly if bills get tight and spending money on the house takes aways from her kids (maternal instincy will most likely win that one)

but the question for you has got to be whether his continued dishonesty and craziness is worth it.

To make our relationships work we have to fix the things about ourselves that need fixing rather than just leap into the next one.

In talking to a number of my friends (many of whom are married) they have nearly all had break up territory phases in their relationships. Those that found a way to talk about it and work at it now have much stronger relationships for it

Again, we have plenty of time to think and no pressure to make decisions just now. Let these thoughts come and go, especially as long as they don't hamper your capacity to rebuild your life.

^^^^^ this. The important thing for you (us) now though is that even without that other person to work with us we still have to work on our stuff (the christina aguilera song 'fighter' just popped into my head there)

so apart from improving your taste in TV what does rebuilding little look like?