T2 put the nail on the head! Most of us here are on this side of the fence and your input is welcome because now we can see it from the other side. As Caly told me when I first started coming here; put yourself in your H's shoes, walk in them. this is the only way to understand that what happened didn't happen to just us but you guys too.
I can say that I totally empathize with you guys! Because when I look at what you are going through, it is worse than what I went through, and believe me I thought I was in he//!
Once we can accept and move forward, you all are dealing with not just yourself and what you have done but another person has been involved. Now what do you do with both a wife and a mistress, who do you choose, who do you hurt. Because, someone IS going to be hurt! And knowing you are the cause of this hurt, is not a walk in the park!
Some make the right choices, some end up realizing that they made the wrong choice and then it's usually too late to correct it.
I for one are glad you came back, you're right, boundaries were drawn and we only saw one side. I decided ALL are welcome here, I don't just think of you as Pam's H, I think of you as a WAS who needs support and who can give the rest of us insight on what goes on with you.
You must realize that we are the LBS so when one of the "enemies" come here, we feel the hurt. We didn't mean to lash out at you.
A lesson learned, listen before passing judgement!
So let it all hang out! Educate us, LOL! And so what if Pam reads your threads, maybe it will wake her up!
