What about the possibility that I going about this wrong? I have been of the mindset that 'I am done talk at my wife, now it will she, she talks (if she wants to) and I listen'. What about the possibility that she's actually caught between myself and the OM, and taking time from BOTH of us to try and figure out what to do? I know she told one of her friends, last week, that (her week) was 'crappy' when it was asked.
What is the '180' here is to reach out to my wife and try to talk to her? Not pleading and begging (have not really done any of that throughout this) but really try to talk and LISTEN to her? I do know that would be hard to do because I only believe half of what she says, and maybe even that is too much credit.
My wife may be totally out of character with all of this but I would still like to think that she's not running into the relationship with the OM. She is not stupid and will try to protect herself. I would like to believe that she's not totally out of her mind. I also have to believe she's questioning what the OM has said to her (aka 'I'm a virgin').
All of this is a stretch, because affairs are addictive, and I feel she wanted to separate to spend more time with OM without having to deal with me at home, about it. But I do still think that my wife will cover her ass and not willingly give into the other relationship without a good reason to do so. I have no idea what is happening with her, since we don't talk about that, so it is SUPER hard to know what to do.
So what's the call here?
She called me this morning, after D went to daycare, to get the update (on daughter). I told her the tree was up and that she could decorate it with our D. I didn't get the tree as a 'brownie point' for wife. I want my D to have a tree for Christmas and that's why I did it. Daughter said "CHRISTMAS TREE" as soon as she saw it, last night, when we came home.
