I'm with Tal on this 100%. I began to do that with my WAH last year. When he said something I didn't think was correct or felt the way it was said was inappropriate, I calmly said something like, "I don't care for the tone of your voice and find it offensive, why don't you call me back later when you are able to speak to me more respectfully. I'll talk to then. Bye." And I would hang up...he always called back and within no time...he learned to 'control' his tone and demeanor if he wanted to maintain contact with me. NOW...it's a "habit" with him to NEVER speak harshly.
It's just YOU setting YOUR personal boundaries with Pam. As Pam is struggling to balance her emotions (hopefully the doctor and she will find the correct dosage of her meds for her) and while she's doing that, she is still struggling to 'hold her tongue' when something 'triggers' her.
YOU however are not a dart board for her slings and arrows. When Pam is saying or doing something that YOU feel steps over YOUR personal boundaries, say so calmly and respectfully.
Silence (on your part) is more painful to her than your calmly stating your offense to her actions/words could ever be
It's good to see you here FINALLY opening up and getting real. Good for YOU!
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