My second H and I separated very amicably. The paperwork was drafted and I was happy to file.

H asked me not to file for a while as he had started an R with a lovely lady but didn't want to encourage "commitment". I thought it was sad but I filed anyway.

Some exes may want to deflect an over enthusiastic OP and others may want to hang on and yet others may have mixed reasons. Who cares, if we want M then there is no need to hurry the D (financial interests notwithstanding). In my case I could see no reason to delay especially if H2 was manipulating. None of my business.

Regards
Vanilla

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW