If feels like you've settled in for the long haul (accepted the marathon) and thats to be commended - i'm still railing against that and its doing me no favours
You're right about that. I've a vision of how this will all unfold and I've known for a long time that my W needs a "romantic disappointment" to understand how relationships work. I knew that before this sitch but wasn't going to offer her to experiment it, hoping that we'd resolve it in the R. So it helps me greatly to be patient when I see the full arc of what needs to happen. Of course, in the meantime I reflect on my own faults and I become a better man and H, something I should have done before and that might have spare me the current ordeal, who knows.
Perhaps you could think of the full cycle that your W needs to go through? Would it help you?
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
