Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[jim0987]

question? and this might be one for Starsky if he's reading

the whole on again off again affair with OM1 is just picking up again. He and my W work together, W's best friend also works there and is having an affair (has for over a year) with another of the colleagues.

I dont know how common this knowledge is at her place.

Their Boss lives 4 doors down from me and it would be very easy for me to tell him and their place will have rules against that sort of thing.

In standing up for my marriage is there any merit in exposing the affair to her work place? it would likely end it pretty quickly as he is nervous about it anyway. But it would cause tremendous collatoral damage in my W's trust in me and she would really hate me for it.

If I were to expose it is there a better way of doing this?

i'm not in a positive place and probably its fear and ego talking but ultimately i want to stand for my marriage.