I am in AA, the self actualizing brought me to where I am now, alcohol will never be a problem for me again, and I can finally say that as though a truck has been lifted off my shoulders, just wish it hadn't taken me so long to get where I am. I wasn't a chronic alcoholic, or sick, more like a guy that got stuck in my 20's and refused to grow up despite her efforts to get me to do so. We have a lot of other issues as well, I work nights and a lot of hours, she works days. etc. We are both very educated people that understand the ramifications of this, but I think our "therapist" bringing up my past years of nonsense has played so much bad into her psyche with no plan for the future that she threw her hands up. Making Amends is an on going process and will be for a long time. She is my life and I regret a lot of my not showing her that, I just hope it isn't too late for her to see that we can do this and be happier than ever before.
