HP, many have followed your thread from the beginning and have an idea the struggle it was for you to finally reach the courage to make this move. You are right, she was horrible to you. Unfortunately, it seems to be a side-effect of being a WAW in an A. I pray that all of this will shake her to her very core until it begins to move her out of the fog. That's what it takes, you know. As long as things go the way she wants, she will linger around in the fog.
You need to resist your feelings of guilt. She knows you as well as you know her. She knows how to work you and the best way seems to play on your guilty feelings. IMO, you should not feel guilty for leaving that unhealthy environment and moving your son to an emotionally safe place, where the two of you can have time to recuperate and get your balance again.
I really respect what you have done and how you have controlled your anger, when many of us could not have done near as well. You have not been a brute, in fact I think far from it. Frankly, I think it is okay to have the feelings of not wanting to hear from your W right now. Sounds very normal considering all she has put you through. Again, don't let your guilt rule you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
