Quote: I'm really hoping you guys get through this with minimal craziness. Is there a reason you can't go through your stuff while she's at the house?
I've done a little of that, but not much. It seemed like doing that caused her a lot of tension. I'm guessing it's because it made the D more "real". The few times I've done that, we ended up argueing.
Quote: I just didn't know what CJ was capable of at that time and felt a real need to protect myself.
Understandable.
Quote: Is there a third person who could go with you to serve as a buffer? Or a friend/family member of Pam's who could be there for her at that time (she'd be less likely to "go off on you" this way, no?
Maybe. I'll have to think about that. I can't think of any of her family or friends who would even want to see me right now. I'm going to keep this in mind though because it may be a solution.
Quote: Then again, I suppose you'll have to wait for the settlement to be settled.
Actually, my understanding is that I'm allowed to enter the house any time I want, as long as it's not done in a manner which threatens her. I believe I'm allowed to call a locksmith to gain entry, or even "break into" it. I don't believe it's considered any form of illegal entry because it is still my house also. I'd be allowed to remove, at minimum, my pre-marital belongings.
Obviously, I don't wish to do that. It would just increase the tension and anger between P and I. I also don't feel it would be respecting her space. A divorce is difficult enough without it getting ugly, so there's no need to try making it ugly.
