Here are a couple of suggestions about the gifts. 1) You could have them wrapped, but hidden away and not put under the tree until you see if she has any for you. If she does, then you could bring your gifts out to "surprise" her, and act as if it was planned that way. 2) You could place only one of the gifts under the tree and hold the others for another gift-giving holiday.

Most of all, don't sweat it. The most important thing right now is to work on not over-focusing on it, b/c that prevents you from detaching.

I notice that it seems really difficult for the LBS to not buy a gift on holidays that traditionally calls for it. I just want to remind them that they seldom "win" any points with the WAW and gift-giving. If he doesn't recognize her, then she uses it to justify her feelings. If he does get her something, she doesn't really appreciate it from her heart (even if she's able to mutter a thank you), b/c she is a WAW. IMO, most WAW's look at anything over the top as him trying to kiss-up. But IJMO.


Last edited by sandi2; 12/15/14 07:46 PM.
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