I'm not on the bb much any more, but I am keeping up with you and Pam.
I'm really hoping you guys get through this with minimal craziness. Is there a reason you can't go through your stuff while she's at the house?
Even if you ask that she stay in another part of the house?
I must tell you that after I found out that CJ had been having his secret A (and the one before that) and was planning to leave me, the first thing I did was go to the bank and change our joint savings account into my own personal account.
I just didn't know what CJ was capable of at that time and felt a real need to protect myself.
Is there a third person who could go with you to serve as a buffer? Or a friend/family member of Pam's who could be there for her at that time (she'd be less likely to "go off on you" this way, no?
Then again, I suppose you'll have to wait for the settlement to be settled.
