Am I on the right track? (3)

[wmwb123]

My wife came to get her things this past weekend. She has now officially moved out.

Yet there was a development. Before she left she apologized to me. She said when I told her co-workers about her affair, they told her I was crazy, unstable and possibly dangerous. She said she believed them and so she has been treating me poorly ever since. She said now she realizes I've "always been a nice person." She even said she understood why I did it. She even cried a little.

Right after she left I found a postcard for her in the mailbox. I took a picture and sent it to her via text. She replied almost immediately, the first time she's responded to a text in five months. There have been several friendly texts since then.

I'm encouraged that she is showing signs of rational thought. Thinking I was crazy is irrational. Realizing that I am and always have been a nice person is rational. I had hoped, however, that the rational thought would return all at once and she would realize how irrational her affair is.

What do I do now? Do I attempt to reestablish communication? My DB coach had been working with me on that until she cut off contact. With divorce looming, though, should I really let her think we'll just be friends after the divorce?

It feels so good to have friendly contact with her, but I do not want my wife as a friend. I want her to be my wife.