I keep on about all of this stuff but the core of it all is that neither of us were doing anywhere near enough to sustain our marriage and blamed the other one. My insecurities, her 'depression', my failure on some big events, her anxieties etc. etc. its all factors but none of it was insurmountable if we had just worked together and had some fun.
I think this is the crux with a lot of LBS's troubles, in that it's easy to say "If only soandso would realize how easy it is to fix if we both put the effort in!"
And it is easy if you both put the effort in; but hind sight is 20/20 and WAS just wants to escape. Which WE can't change. As much as yes, it blows.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
