Jim0987 #7 - rebuilding but can't tell what it is

[Hoju]

Your W may or may not ever be willing to come back and give things another try, You don't control her or this decision so don't bother trying.

What can you do? Continue to become a better person. Continue to reflect on what went wrong and how you can improve. Continue to be the best damn father to your young ones.

Why would she want to come back? Nothing that has happend in your R matters anymore because you aren't him, you're jim 2.0 now and forever with or without your W. Continue to make these changes for you and your W will notice. Not to mention you are the father of her kids.

Also something very simple my DB coach said to me when I was asking why on earth would she ever want to come back. He simply said "No one wants to get divorced, no one grows up thinking oh boy i can't wait to get married and then divorced". It's just something very simple that stuck with me.

Your W is lost, she needs time and space to work through her own issues. Don't worry about OM, no relationship is perfect and once the honeymoon phase is over your W will realize this.