Time is the only way to get past it all. One thing I would warn about is don't worry so much about your wife, but worry about your kids. I got lucky and I still have my kids to this day because I saw what had happened to other men in my family, my wife chose another man over me, so I chose my kids over her. Now she is more miserable than you could ever imagine because she thought I would just let them go. I found out I could live without my wife, but I was not going to lose my kids too.
