I would encourage you to work with W to make this Christmas holiday a special one for your family. It takes time for the feelings to come back and it starts with one baby step...then it'll snowball from there.
You would want W to walk away from this Christmas holiday with warm feelings about you, the kids, and the family unit. She will have nothing but positive memories of it. That is a part of the process in re-attracting W back to you.
