Thanks guys and gals. Although I haven't posted lately, I have been checking in from time to time on various threads and Shodan's has been one I've been following closely.
Starsky- you're correct in that W is far from ready. We did talk last night on our failed MC attempt. We both agreed that she wasn't ready. She even wondered aloud if things needed to get worse (ex- discuss difficult topics) before they got better. The difference is- I went into MC knowing that, she didn't. She also admitted that she was hoping MC would help her get those feelings back/ make her want to save the M. And when they didn't, well she bailed. We talked through how you have to go into it 100% committed otherwise it won't succeed. I tried my best not to be 'preachy' with her (I think I did well) and not come across as desperate for her to come back (as I'm still torn). I've learned from our previous failed MC sessions that I will not be all in until I'm convinced she is as well.
If nothing else, I'm proud of both of us for the conversation last night. We were able to talk about some difficult topics that would have caused W to shut down mos ago. We talked about trust and how last night's conversation had to occur for us to have even a friendly relationship.
Any suggestions on how to handle Christmas? I think the common advice would be to do my own thing and allow W to feel the consequences of her decision, however several of her comments gave me the impression that she'd like to start working on our friendship if there is to be a R.
