Quote: I understand how frustrating it must be to see someone slip into old behavior patterns but I think you should take a look at what you said here. Pam was doing much better right? People make mistakes, they slip back into old patterns, they get upset (aka backsliding).
Yes, Pam has been doing better. I guess I wasn't as upset about all the snide comments as I was about the coworker contact and comments that I'm just trying to screw her in the settlement.
Quote: Right now you're still pretty sensitive to all of this stuff because it is what has caused the D in your mind. I'm not saying you're not allowed to be angry... but how do you think this sensitivity affects how you react to Pam and especially her recent backslide?
Yeah, I probably am very sensitive to all of this. I think I'm reacting poorly at times. There are times when the thoughts going through my mind are along the lines of "Well, I've tried to make this as easy on you as I can. If you're going to be that way about it, screw it.". I think some of that is frustration, and some of it is probably because I'm hurting.
I'm going to try to be more aware that I'm upset because my button has been pushed, and tone down my anger/frustration before responding.
