I thought everything was okay...(Part 2)

[Mozza]

So, I'm getting so upset that W doesn't communicate with me at all w/o being at counsellor (mediation.) it's so annoying, I just can't let it go. she said she wants to communicate more especially with the kids. She wanted me to send pictures of things with the kids. I've sent 10 over the last few weeks and have gotten no response at all. Today, sent an email and asked a question, no reply. At one point she sent me an email that if I need to get in touch with her, send her a text and she will determine if it's important enough to get back to me.

Any suggestions? I guess it's why I had to put the agreement in place, but it still is really frustrating.

Don't expect your W to adjust to your expectations or demands, no more than you'd expect a giraffe to climb a tree. Don't expect it at all. It won't frustrate you then. Take note of how she acts and adjust accordingly. To me, it's not difficult at all; like some technical challenge that I don't take personally. She doesn't follow up on commitments? Noted. She doesn't respond to texts and emails? Noted. Don't give her the pleasure of disappointing you.

Also, note that you are still trying to control her. There's a hint of "it's a matter of principle" in your reaction. Does that suggest that you wouldn't be any different if she came back, forcing her to react a certain way at a certain time to avoid your criticism or anger? Practice letting go: it will be good for you in your next relationship, with her or another.