It's been 2 months since I joined the forum. I feel like I know how to approach DB better and am slowly getting better at detaching. I am looking at the new year as an opportunity to get in a better spot and remake myself. What happens with W remains to be seen. She doesn't seem to be affected either way by my detaching actions or 180s so far, but I know that is not the entire point. I kept myself busy this weekend and out of the house much of the time. I had coffee with my best friend (who has known me for 20+ years). I spoke to him about my codependent behaviors and what I was doing with DB. He is very supportive and thinks DB ideas are pretty good. He told me while I own some of the problems in the M he feels like there is something going on with my W and that she would benefit from counseling (although he doesn't know what would ever get her to go). I also ended up deciding to get W presents for X-mas. I just give them with no expectations of anything (they aren't extravagant). I just decided to give freely, if this was a LRT mistake let me know. I was unsure of this.
M-44 W-44 Sons- 11&14 Married- 18 Together- 27 Separation mentioned- 9-29-14 Still together, but not "together" "if you feel rotten and forgotten, remember there'll be better days."
