Georgiabelle you are absolutely right- I am trying to get him to see how it will be different. Thank you for calling that what it is.
I don't bring it up by itself, but if he wonders why something is happening the way it is and asks- I respond with that.
I guess instead of just saying " I don't feel that's necessary" I think I have to justify my decisions and plans. He used to think I was this amazing, wonderful person and mother. But since onset of MLC he has raked me over the coals- and I have let him take away my self esteem in the partner/mother dept. Lately he seems to backtracking from that and telling me again that I'm a good mom- but I still feel the sting of before. And I do want him to realize the consequences of his decision- we aren't in a partnership anymore!
I will pull back and let the actions speak what they need to.


Me 41 H 40
M 20 T 23
S 19,16, 8 D 13
BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work
BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D
Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015
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