I love Pam dearly and hope that she has not reverted to these behaviors. If she has then I'll be very disapointed in her.
So, let me try to talk to you as if I don't have a friendship/love for Pam...as if I don't know her.
This must be very frustrating for you.
And a bit scary.
To have someone not accept that a divorce is immenent and then threaten you or your possessions harm is unfortunately a very typical emotional response.
That doesn't make it easy to deal with.
I suggest contacting your boss or the phone company. Explain the situation and ask to block her incoming calls.
I know this isn't an ideal solution, I'm sure you don't want your co-workers knowing your private business.
But, having her call them to demand information about you is out of line. And against the principles of DBing.
On the other hand...I think you have a clear cut goal here.
Goal:
To have your stbx stop calling your co-workers at work.
Baby steps:
How will you know when you are getting closer to your goal?
Perhaps the stbx only leaves you 5 emails instead of 6.
Perhaps she only calls you 3 times instead of 4.
How can your reward her for these babysteps?
Any ideas?
I'm hoping someone else will pop in and offer some more suggestions.
I understand that this is an emotional issue and am sending you comfort and hugs.
