Strange evening...W came over and talked about D papers. We started to argue, mostly over financial situations. We are both facing serious challenges. She will be having a hard time managing enough money to support her basic needs and my struggle is because of the special care I'm trying to provide S. Long story there to explain.
Anyhow, the arguing stopped when I managed to change the focus from what each of us is facing to looking at what S could miss out on if we don't take the chance on what I'm trying to do. W quickly admitted that she would never forgive herself if she caused that and S never managed to break through his challenges. Suddenly we were on the same page talking about it cooperatively and compromising. We talked more after that about challenges for the time and she shared some of her problems with me more freely than usual. She told me how much she truly hates her life these days and hates all men outside of myself, S, and FIL. Apparently she has been approached by several married men of late. Which fits with info BIL has told me about her few relationships being with men that turned out to be married and just seeking something on the side. I don't really know what to make of this evening. I'm just glad it turned out pleasant for now.
Back to making plans at this point. Sounds like we will have papers finalized this week and ready to sign. A little sad that its coming to a close but I think its starting to relieve tensions overall.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
