I got 99 problems but an MLCer ain't one!

[Georgiabelle]

Daring,

I'm sorry you are in a difficult place. It's stressful enough during the holidays and dealing with these zany MLC peeps can add to the stress. I just have an observation and take it for what it is.

I get the impression that you are trying to *remind* your h that you aren't a family and are only co-parenting as a means to get him to rethink his decision. I understand you are hurt ( it sukks!!!!),however your h has to *feel* the difference. And honestly, maybe he will and maybe he won't.

I know you don't want a D and so does your h. I think bringing up the fact that you are no longer a *family* might actually be counter productive. Say nothing. Answer questions and move on. No assessment of the situation necessary because your h is the one who has to see it. It's like you are trying to keep reminding him things will be different. Not sure if I articulated that well.

In regards to the activities, you don't remind him you won't be talking much. Actions speak much, much louder than words. I don't think it's necessary to fill him in on everything, but illness, ER visits or anything like that is fair for discussion. Your h is a grown up. He can ask the kids their plans also.

Pull back. Focus on you and your kids. Don't worry about trying to "convince" your h this is s big deal and a mistake. You will be just fine.

Hang in there:-)