Busting this Divorce - Moving Out

[HPoirot]

HP,

Trust me...W probably crashed and sobbed her heart out after you guys left. She's been holding it in in front of you. She's not the Abominable Snow Monster, ya know.

To add to Starsky's comments in response to W's email, do what you feel is important to you and S11 as well. Look at it as give and take. Also would inform W that she has a very limited time to use your car as you are now separated and she will need to find alternative ways to travel.

Of course, you won't be a Grinch and make your W walk in 10-foot snow. Just use your common sense. Yet at the same time, she cannot have an unlimited use of your car since she made the choice to continue with OM. Let her put on her BGP.

I'd suggest that you respond to W's latest text about how are things...that you and S11 are settling in quite nicely. Keep it simple.

I know this is a HUGE change from where you were even two/three weeks ago. This was a necessary step for you to take...unfortunately. However, you will regain your center and create a calm atmosphere at home for yourself and S11. That is the most important thing you can do for you and your son.

Thank you Wonka for your advice.

On the car... W now says she has a rental car for this week. She did not ask for me to pay half. After this week, we'll see about sharing the car.

Thank you for your suggestion to respond to W's text. Honestly, I'm in a really good mood right now and I really don't want to respond.

Just a while ago, s11 and I went to the local grocery to get food. S11 had a great time running around in a new store and got stuff we never had before. He insisted. We got chocolate pie and chocolate covered ritz crackers. I, though, started to feel like my emotions were catching up with me. Not to bad but still. I did take my magnesium pills with help greatly with my mood. Also, I did treat myself to some rum tonight. I just want a break... to celebrate getting this far. I'll get back to regaining my center tomorrow.

For now, my s11 is eating mini cocktail hot dogs (something else new). If I can find some bitrthday candles, we're going to celebrate our new life (another s11 suggestion). I see he is trying to take care of me. He's a good boy... the best.

I should also admit... I talked to my OW on the phone today. I told her everything about my sitch. Told her I told my W about her and I. As she went through something with me like my W if going through now, she give me some valuable insight as she stayed in her M. She agreed with the tough love approach you've helped me take and is happy I'm getting stronger for myself and S11. We laughed a lot about everything I'm going through. We joked it was time for me to meet her H and let our kids play together. As if this couldn't get any more complicated. Don't worry... she's not in any kind of A space and neither am I. It just was nice for a while to laugh with someone I've known forever. Even though today I did meet 2 very attractive women who live in this building, I am committed to focusing on learning to live on my own and for myself and my s11 over the next 6 months. It's just fun to think of myself as single again.

From here I still don't see how me and W get to R. Right now that's just great. I did not cry at all today. Felt minimal shakes while in the grocery. Tonight I'm keeping my cell phone in the next room. I'll get used to W not being around quickly. Most important... S11 had a good time today and we'll keep going. This condo building is on the edge of a forest park. We'll be on the lookout for deer and as soon as possible go running on the trails there. Well be happy here and I'll keep doing my best. I have a lot to live for now. More than 3 months ago when this began. I'm at the start of the life I've always wanted.

Thank you all again.

Onwards.