The whole legal divorce thing is something that i havent got my head round in terms of what is best to do.
if in the end the only difference is that saying it is joint will save you time, effort and money then its definitely worth considering especially if its no fault.
depending on the difference in paperwork and $ it the 'contested' route might sit more comfortably because it puts all of the emphasis on him and at the same time means you can stand by your principle of not wanting D. you dont have to argue against it and can just accept it but at least then it is him divorcing you (which it is)
in the scheme of things though im not sure whether this is a hill that really matters compared to the fact its what he says he wants in the first place.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
